Hey,

By this point in December, the noise changes. It’s no longer about finishing what you started, it’s about deciding what you’re taking forward. Questions get heavier. Timelines shorter. Pressure to be clear, resolved, and intentional arrives before the year has even ended.

For many women, the most draining part is not the doing but the deciding. Every choice starts to feel loaded. Every want asks to be justified. Every pause feels like something you should explain.

Edition12 is an invitation to loosen the grip on outcomes. To remember that clarity doesn’t always come from pushing harder, sometimes it comes from carrying less…

Inside this edition:
🕯️ Ritual That’s Better Than New Year’s Resolutions
🤍 Health, weight, and long-term care
📚 What she’s listening, playing, journaling this week
🗞 5 headlines shaping women’s world
✨ Her Spotlight

Take what you need. Leave what you don’t. Take your time with this one.

December asks women to decide who to become, what to fix, etc. etc… By the time January arrives, we’re already tired of the pressure to improve.

But there’s another way - the one that doesn’t demand reinvention, discipline and invisible taxes. It begins on December 21, the winter solstice. The longest night of the year. The point where the world stops contracting and quietly turns back toward light.

A Ritual for Women Who Are Done Forcing Things: 

You write down 12 wishes. Not goals. Not resolutions. Just wishes - for your body, your work, your relationships, your inner life. You fold them. Place them in a bowl.

Each night, from the solstice until New Year’s Eve, you pull one slip without looking and let it go, burn it, release it. You don’t reread it. You don’t try to make it happen.

On New Year’s Day, one wish remains. That one stays with you. Not as pressure but as responsibility.

Why This Hits Differently - It’s Decision Relief. Instead of carrying all the self-improvement projects into a new year, you carry one. Instead of pretending you control everything, you admit what you don’t, you practice discernment.

Surrender and agency. Release and responsibility. That balance is rare… and deeply stabilizing.

In Germany, Rauhnächte — the “smoke nights” marked the in-between days when people burned incense and let the old year dissolve. In Scandinavia, women dressed in white and carried light through darkness. In Iran, families stayed awake through the longest night, reading poetry and eating pomegranates to honor the return of light. In Japan, citrus baths warmed bodies against winter’s weight. In Ireland and England, stone monuments were built to catch the first returning sun.

Across continents, the message was the same: This isn’t about becoming better but about becoming aligned.

This solstice ritual offers a quieter truth: Some things require patience, trust and some things only unfold when you stop gripping so tightly.

You don’t emerge from winter fully formed. You emerge prepared.

The winter solstice doesn’t promise immediate brightness. It promises direction. And you need one honest intention and the courage to trust the rest.

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💬 Ideas to tune into when the world’s too loud.

🎧 Play: MPD (Manic Pixie Dream) by Val Merza
Indie-pop artist writing from the space between softness and self-respect, MPD is about being loved as a feeling, not a person - desired for your light, then blamed for its heat → Press play if you’re done being someone’s fantasy.

🎧 Listen: Sax Appeal — 99% Invisible
Tracing how the saxophone went from elegance to excess to cliché and what that says about taste, power, and who gets taken seriously → A smart listen for noticing how meaning gets assigned, then distorted.

✍🏽 Journal: What would caring for my body look like if it wasn’t about discipline or punishment? → Write one page. Stop there.

✨ Let these be your permission to stay with only what actually sustains you.

5 stories shaping the week for women everywhere.

🏃‍♀️ Redefining Excellence: Sydney McLaughlin-Levrone wins World Athlete of the Year after dominating a new event and rewriting track history.
🎤 Pleasure, Reclaimed: Sabrina Carpenter’s pop persona turns joy and desire into statements of agency, not apology.
🧬 Hope Against Ovarian Cancer: Researchers uncover a protein that helps tumors hide — and how blocking it could improve treatment.
🏟️ Building the Future Game: The US proposes 14 host stadiums for the 2031 Women’s World Cup, betting big on women’s sport.
🤝 Power at the Bargaining Table: The WNBA and players extend CBA talks as pay, revenue sharing, and expansion hang in the balance.

Found her. Loved her. Needed you to see her.

Sam Cutler (@thefitfatale) lives where modern wellness, discipline, and desire meet: chronic illness, food freedom, a visible transformation. Healing became language, language became authority, and authority became a system others now step into.

What makes her worth watching isn’t just the glow-up. It’s how easily self-care turns into performance and how quietly wellness asks women to keep improving.

✨ Scroll her with curiosity, not instruction and notice what parts feel nourishing… and what parts feel demanding.

If this edition helped you loosen your grip on outcomes, Tuesdays and Fridays will take you further — with stories that help you carry less.

✨ P.S. Know someone who needs this love and warmth? Send her weekly download. Because the best kind of wisdom is the one we pass woman to woman → Send it her way

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