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Sometimes you miss people in life, remember exactly who they were to you and still don’t know how to be with them now in your life. #Edition69 is about that weird grief of outgrowing friends and the strange loss that comes when a relationship doesn’t end on a twisted turn, but slowly just stops fitting.
And it’s even harder because nobody is wrong or right…
Inside this Edition:
👉 When You Outgrow People You Still Love
🥗 What she’s watching, reading, doing
📰 5 headlines worth her time
✨ Her Spotlight
🤍 Note to Her
Think about this – Sometimes, you don’t lose people because love disappears but, you lose them because staying close would mean becoming someone you’re not anymore.
👉 When You Outgrow People You Still Love
It’s opening a chat and realising you no longer know what to say.
It’s seeing an old friend’s story and feeling distance, and guilt all at once.
It’s knowing someone’s birthday, their coffee order, their old wounds, and still feeling like you would have to introduce yourself again.
Somewhere along the way, the relationship just… stopped knowing who you were becoming. And nobody teaches us how to mourn that.
In the relationship dynamic, nothing terrible actually happened. And, that is what almost makes it harder. When someone hurts you clearly, there is a reason. But what do you do when space simply stops fitting? When the friendship is not broken, just too small/different/weird for who you are becoming?
For many of us…
this grief is not only about losing a person. It is about losing a role. The reliable one. The forgiving one. The friend who checked in first. The daughter who understood everyone. The wife who needed very little. The woman who made herself easier to love.
Then one day, you stop.
You stop replying instantly. Stop explaining every boundary. Stop confusing past with obligation. You stop performing closeness if it isn’t there. It isn’t because you became cold. You just… became less available for energies/people/spaces that required you to abandon your own-self.
That is why outgrowing people feels so lonely. You are not only just losing them. You are also losing the side of you that made the relationship possible.
People-pleaser or
The one who always came back first.
Or any other shade in this world.
Some people can know your past and still not understand your present.
Some people can love who you were and still not have access to who you are becoming.
That does not make the connection fake.
It just means it may be finished. Maybe adulthood is learning to let that be sad without turning it into a failure. To miss someone and still not want the old dynamic back. To honour what they meant without returning to who you had to be. To accept that something can be real and still no longer exist.
The weird grief of outgrowing people is not just about losing others. It is about becoming someone new. And every becoming asks for something to be left behind.
🔍 Currently, Her
💬 Ideas to tune into when the world’s too loud.
🎧 Play: You’re Gonna Go Far by Noah Kahan
This song feels like someone standing at the edge of the town, a friendship, the family system – and giving you the permission to leave without making you the villain. It has that rare kind of love that is proud of you and grieving you at the same time.
📖 Read: The Rachel Incident by Caroline O’Donoghue
The kind of friendship that becomes a whole weather system when you’re young – Read it for the strange intimacy of being known by someone before life starts editing you both into different people.
🎬 Watch: Microhabitat
This is a Korean film about a woman moving through the homes of old friends and realizing that adulthood has made strangers out of people who once knew her. Everyone simply chooses a different way to survive, and those choices begin to change what closeness can or cannot hold.
✨ For the week when staying would mean shrinking, but leaving still hurts like hell.
🗞 Her World, This Week
🌍 5 stories shaping the week for women everywhere.
🧬 IVF Add-Ons Face Evidence Check: A new Lancet review found most IVF add-ons lack strong evidence of improving fertility, despite being widely used and often expensive.
🧫 Frozen Embryos Enter Personhood Fight: The Trump administration’s new grant language calls frozen embryos “children,” raising fresh concerns over IVF access, abortion rights, and fetal personhood policy.
🏀 Fever Duo Tops All-Star Voting: Aliyah Boston and Caitlin Clark now lead 2026 WNBA All-Star fan voting, putting Indiana’s star power right at the center of the league’s biggest showcase.
🏥 Mothers Were Failed In Nottingham: A major review found more than 500 mothers and babies were needlessly harmed or died after systemic failures, toxic culture, and dismissed concerns in Nottingham maternity care.
🏥 Nottingham Review Demands Maternity Reform: The Ockenden review exposes deep maternity care failures, with calls growing for safer staffing, stronger accountability, and mothers being listened to before harm happens.
💡 Her Spotlight
Found her voice. Loved her clarity. Needed you to see her.
Her work sits somewhere between clay, converting it into a culture, and reminding us that transformation is rarely instant or clean. It is shaped slowly, by pressure, patience, fire, and the willingness to begin again.
When we’re talking about outgrowing people, Sasha feels like someone you should know because her world honours the messy middle of becoming someone new.
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🤍 Note to Her
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